My Partner Doesn’t Want to Work Out With Me!

Does this sound familiar? You want to share your favorite physical activity with your partner, but they always say no. If you’re about to give up, read on—these simple strategies might help you work out together next time!

Jeanne is a 35-year-old runner who has been passionate about running for nearly a decade. For her, it’s the ideal activity—good for both the body and the mind. She firmly believes everyone should run. Jeanne trains 4 to 6 times per week and is motivated by the freedom of being able to run anytime, anywhere, in any weather.

Her partner, Guy, also enjoys being active—but in a very different way. He prefers hiking and mountain biking, and he’s not a fan of spiking his heart rate. For Guy, exercise is a solitary, mindful experience. When it comes to finding a common activity, the couple struggles: neither one enjoys the other’s preferred sports. Instead of bringing them closer, their attempts to train together often lead to arguments.

Here are 7 tips to help couples navigate this common challenge:

1. Respect your partner

If you pressure them to join you, they’re likely to resist even more.

2. Have a conversation

Communication is key. Talk openly and honestly about your expectations and feelings.

3. Schedule it

Block off one hour a week for a shared physical activity. Putting it in the calendar makes it more likely to happen.

4. Set shared goals

Before working out together, define a couple’s goal—something achievable and motivating for both of you.

5. Adapt

Take into account your partner’s physical condition and comfort level. Don’t try to match your pace if they’re just starting out.

6. Be fair

If your partner agrees to try your activity, return the favor and join them in one of theirs.

7. Shop for gear together

Fitness gear is a growing trend. Shopping for equipment together can increase motivation and make the experience more enjoyable.

And if none of these tips work, don’t force it. Some people simply prefer solo workouts—it helps them recharge, reflect, or push themselves without feeling judged. If this is your partner’s reality, respect it. However, if their solo training starts to affect your quality of life, it’s worth bringing it up. Who knows? One day, they might change their mind.